Middle age sucks — but there’s hope

Happy belated birthday to me! Yup, I celebrated the Big Five-Two yesterday. And with it, the realization that—statistically speaking—I’m the unhappiest now that I’ll ever be. Cheers to that! According to a recent Washington Post article, 52 (or thereabouts) is the age at which people in the industrialized west feel the most miserable. Illusions have been […]

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Almost there (my birthday anthem)

It’s my birthday. On our way to school this morning, my daughter played this song for me. (Sung by the lovely Anika Noni Rose.) I welled up. Not that I want to open a fashionable restaurant in 1920’s New Orleans. But I can relate to mountains, trials and tribulations, and I share Tiana’s dream of building a […]

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Joy and Woe. A time to grieve.

Yesterday was the saddest day of my life: I got divorced. And so, after 23 years, four months and 30 days of being “Mrs. W.” I am back to being plain, old Conner Middelmann. My reaction took me by surprise. I was expecting to feel relief, energy, and even happiness at the conclusion of this […]

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Good or Evil? The one you feed.

Today’s Daily Calm meditation was about a Cherokee parable that goes like this: An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. “One is evil — he is anger, envy, sorrow, […]

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Hope for a brighter morning, even during our darkest nights

Abuse can take many forms, ranging from violent and life-threatening to subtle — sometimes so subtle that even the target barely notices it. No type of abuse is “better” or “worse” — indeed, any situation where a person (man or woman) uses their power to control or hurt another person can create deep wounds and lasting […]

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